About 4 weeks into the newborn phase, I shared my nighttime woes with pediatricians, lactation consultants, and other breastfeeding mamas. I expected to hear wise advice on how to extend my daughter’s nighttime hours (by 6 weeks, she was sleeping 4 hours at a time). The only “advice” I received was to “go with the flow” and “not worry about it.”
Have you been told the same thing? What about these?
I believe you can treasure every second of babyhood without being exhausted. You can maintain your supply without sacrificing your baby’s independence.
If you are desperate for some sleep, you’ve come to the right place.
I want to combat the myth that you’ll never get a breastfed baby to sleep through the night. Breastfeeding your baby should not and does not condemn you to months of awful, infrequent sleep.
I truly believe that these tips can boost your success with your baby’s sleep and improve your daily routines.
Baby Sleep Series
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Okay, before we get into the meat of how to get a breastfed baby to sleep through the night, I really want to make sure that we are on the same page with your expectations of newborn sleep.
You’ve probably already heard the main reason why breastfed babies struggle with sleeping through the night: their little bodies metabolize breast milk more quickly, so they require more feedings.
I’m not going to argue with that fact. It’s totally true. But, believe it or not, many breastfed babies are physically capable of sleeping through the night by 3, even 2, months.
Now, if you’re 4 months in and you’re finding it pretty hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, do not worry.
The goal of this post isn’t to make you feel bad that your baby isn’t sleeping for more than 3-4, even 2 hours at night. I want to encourage you and let you know that more sleep IS possible.
So, to clear things up, what does sleeping through the night mean for breastfed babies?
The definition of sleeping through the night ranges a lot. In the early weeks, sleeping through the night is only about 5-6 hours of continuous sleep (from midnight to about 5AM).
By 3 months, that number extends to 8 hours of continuous sleep. Research indicates that most babies can sleep through the night at this age. At about 4-6 months, your baby will consolidate his sleep and begin sleeping anywhere from 10-12 hours a night.
Once again, stating these facts is not meant to discourage you. My baby slept from 8pm to 4am, with a dreamfeed no later than 11pm by 8 weeks. It was a natural transition because we used the methods I list below. My experience is vastly different than my peers, just like yours will be too. If your BFF brags that HER baby slept 10 hours every night by the time she was 8 weeks and YOUR baby only sleeps until 5AM, don’t feel bad.
However, if your baby is waking 2.5 hours every night, I’ve got great news: your baby can sleep more. We just need to figure out how.
I actually go over several reasons why any baby may have trouble sleeping in this post, but I do believe there are several factors that can make it more difficult to get a breastfed baby to sleep through the night.
This is what you’re up against, Mama. So, don’t feel bad if your baby isn’t sleeping through the night as quickly as other babies.
But don’t give up!
We’re about to talk about effective tips that actively combat these hindrances and gently train your baby to sleep longer and better. The best part is, these tips are subtle, quick wins that can produce immediate results.
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Breastfed babies, especially newborn breastfed babies, have the tendency to snack. That is, they’ll suckle on your breast for a few minutes and once the oxytocin hits them, they doze off to sleep. Meanwhile, you believe that they are happy, content, and full.
If you ever want to sleep more than two hours at a time, it is absolutely paramount that your baby gets a full feeding.
Not only do babies with a nice, full tummy sleep much longer, but a full feeding also ensures that your baby is getting his calories during the day, instead of frequent snacks at nights.
Honestly, that depends on the baby. On Becoming Babywise first introduced me to this concept. Their definition of a full feeding (in the early days) is 20 minutes on each side. We were usually 20-30 minutes for both breasts.
The speed of your letdown and your baby’s own suckling habits can definitely vary the length of a full feeding.
The most important takeaway is to make sure she doesn’t fall asleep while nursing. Tickle her feet, use a cold towel, change her diaper. Anything you can to make sure that it’s a nice, full feeding.
(If you’re still struggling with breastfeeding as a whole, DO NOT FEEL BAD. Despite what people say, it’s not the easiest task. The best breastfeeding resource I’ve been able to find is the Ultimate Breastfeeding Course by Milkology. It’s cheap ($19), only an hour long and filled with tricks on how to maintain your milk supply, get a good latch, and protect your breastfeeding relationship for the next year. )
If you’ve read any of my posts, you know that I’m a pretty firm believer in a consistent routine.
Your baby depends on you to set the scope for her day, especially in the beginning when she doesn’t even know the difference between night and day. Babies that eat whenever they feel the urge (or don’t) during the day can’t be expected to act any differently during the night.
This is where you come in.
During the day, make sure that you establish consistent feeding patterns. For some babies, that’s being fed every 2 hours. For others, that’s 2.5-3. It depends on your baby: her age, weight, and development.
When you maintain a consistent schedule with a breastfed baby, something remarkable happens: her metabolism adjusts.
Just to give you a real life example, by the time my daughter was a month old, she had learned to expect her feedings every two hours. So, it was also easy for her to go longer stretches of time during the night, because her little body had naturally progressed into a daytime/nighttime rhythm.
Just to clarify, I did not force my daughter to wait between feedings and she didn’t cry for hours while I ignored her hunger. This was all a natural progression because of the simple Eat-Play-Sleep routine we practiced.
A routine is seriously not as scary as it sounds. When you’re giving your baby full feedings, it almost comes naturally. I go into much more detail about routines below and in my next article.
(Fun fact: that newborn sleep class I mentioned earlier, Baby We’re Home, Now Let’s Sleep, actually teaches how to implement a gentle Eat-Play-Sleep routine.)
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This trick is so easy to implement and it can really benefit your baby as well. In the beginning, training your baby to take a bottle can be difficult. I combined this trick with the dream feed to help smooth out the training process.
Here’s how to do it:
Pump in the morning and feed that bottle to your baby at night, preferably during the dream feed (more on that in a minute). Your morning milk contains more proteins and can be the extra push your baby needs to sleep through the night.
(If you’re struggling with getting your breastfed baby to take a bottle, Brenda from Paper Heart Family also wrote a great article on which bottles are best for breastfed babies!)
Have you heard about the dream feed? It’s truly amazing. Basically, between 10-11PM, you feed your baby IN HER SLEEP. If done correctly, this feed will not disrupt your baby’s sleep schedule, and it eliminates the dreaded 12-2AM feed.
This technique can take a while to perfect, especially if you’re breastfeeding.
My biggest tip for success is to start with a bottle of expressed milk. The nipple on a bottle is much bigger and firmer, and easier to reach the roof of her mouth to stimulate her suckling reflex. After about a week or so with a bottle nipple, you can try your breast.
The miraculous thing about the dream feed is that your baby learns how to take the feeding while she’s asleep. It’s a great skill to have.
Once again, consistency is your friend here. I wasn’t consistent with the dream feed until about 8ish weeks. Once I offered the bottle to her every night, I began to notice amazing results.
And we’ve circled back to the eat-play-sleep routine! Let’s dig into this, because it truly is going to be THE trick that will get your breastfed baby to sleep through the night.
Imagine a world where you no longer have to constantly wonder why your baby is crying.
At 2PM, your baby begins to fuss. Instead of popping out a breast (which he rejects), changing his diaper again (and now he’s screaming louder), or trying to distract him with a rattle (full out meltdown), you know that he’s tired and it’s time for a nap.
Doesn’t that kind of predictability sound amazing??
Even if you’re not down with schedules, following this simple pattern will uncomplicate your life. Following this routine is so, so wasy.
Here’s how to do it:
When your baby wakes up, nurse him with a nice, full feeding. After that, begin play time. At the first sign of tiredness, you put your baby down for a nap.
That, simply put, is the Eat – Play – Sleep routine. (The only exception to the Eat – Play- Sleep rule is at night when you feed your baby and directly put him to sleep.)
Just think of the benefits this pattern will provide:
Are you thinking that there is no way life is that simple? But it is! I’ll go over how to establish a flexible routine in my next post.
Until then, promise me you’ll at least let this concept marinate for a while.
I’ve been talking to a lot of mamas and I’ve discovered that there are a ton of misconceptions (*cough* old wives’ tales*cough*) about how to get a breastfed baby to sleep through the night.
So here’s a list of what NOT to do to get a breastfed baby to sleep through the night.
( If you’ve tried any of these techniques, please don’t feed bad. On the surface, these look like great ideas. Unfortunately, many times it only ends up hurting your baby’s nighttime sleep.)
When your baby first starts sleeping through the night, you may want to pump at 2 AM. Over time, your body should realize that it needs to consolidate your production. This will protect your supply until you hit 6 weeks postpartum.
If you’re like me and naturally struggle with supply intermittently, then you may need to protect your supply even after 6 weeks.
If you do find that your milk supply is low, check out my post on how I doubled my milk production in 2 days to quickly improve it.
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You’re not a bad mom for wanting to get more sleep at night.
You’re sensible because you realize that getting more sleep helps your baby’s physical and mental development, and allows you to be the best mom you can be.
I hope this article encourages you and helps you realize that it absolutely is possible to get a breastfed baby to sleep through the night quickly. Don’t let other people’s misconceptions discourage you from doing what you know is best for you and your baby.